Rip the band-aid, Kejt!
The expectations you set early in life will follow you forever. You spoil your surroundings with your good example. You try to please everyone, even when you’re no longer a kid who needs to stand on tippy-toes or pull at the sleeves.
You set your own bar too high. Then you get older (mid-twenties, for example), your knees are bad, and you can’t jump that high anymore. And that pain makes you double over. And guess where that leads you? You’re double effed over.
Now you’re in discomfort and uncomfortable in your skin.
When you’re 18 and make a drastic life decision that might turn out to be a mistake, you’re grand! You’re just a kid, living the life. When you’re, let’s say, 26, for example, you feel too old to be reckless. You can’t pretend you don’t know the consequences now. You already think about the responsibility – you know, the thing that makes your back hurt?
You turn into a more careful person. And no, it doesn’t come with age. Not really. It comes as a result of the band-aid you were too afraid to rip off when you should’ve.
Because why am I (only) 26, completely lost in life, have not a single certain thing going on for me, and I am still scared to start? I have nothing to lose and everything to gain, but I shrink in my shell like a turtle when startled.
What are you so afraid of? I yell to myself as I bite my nails. I was so focused on the fear for the longest time that, in the meantime, I lost the picture of what I wanted to gain if I abandoned fear.
What does that even mean??
I guess what I want in life is that early-2000s rom-com vibe where the lead woman has a vague job in a cute office. She visits cafes more than anything, and hops around in a hurry, thriving even in her struggles. The only thing I have in common is a messy room. God, I need a cigarette!
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I loved how honestly you’ve captured that feeling of growing up, overthinking, and slowly losing the courage to take risks. And that messy-room confession at the end made me smile. 🦋🤍✨
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Thank you! I’m dancing between being young and dreaming big, and feeling like I’m late to life 😅 Yeah, I did achieve the aesthetic I was going for, apparently, so that’s something 😆✨
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Wait till you get to your 30s hehe life has some surprises for you.
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it that a good or a bad thing? 😭
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Its a good thing 😄
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i’ll take your word for it 😄
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🤞
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In my 26, I just keep doing what I love–reading, and learn how to write. And I know what matters to me and what I want. I think that’s the foundation.
Lots of hugs, Katarina. I love your photo and honesty here.
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And that’s a good foundation! I feel like for me, I filled those boxes well, so I know what I enjoy, but that’s like free time. That can’t sustain me.
Lots of hugs to you, Hazel! Thank youu 💙
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I understand. Healthy and witty people are more inclined or perfect for serious, high paying jobs since their body and mind can fit for it, but not me. I’m differetly-abled. I need a little gentle work with no stress responsibilities.
You’re always welcome, Katarina.💚
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I completely understand that. At least for now, I’m in the same sphere. ❤
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The early-2000s rom-com heroine with a vague office job who thrives in chaos is such a top-tier aesthetic goal! That messy room confession made me smile—you’re capturing that weird mid-twenties dance between dreaming big and overthinking so perfectly, Katarina!
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Thank you! Sometimes I have to laugh and joke about this messy period that is the mid-twenties 😄
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Laughing about it is truly the best survival strategy! 😅 The mid-twenties really are such a chaotic, beautiful mess where no one has it all figured out. You’re handling it with so much grace and humor—wishing you a smooth and wonderful week ahead!
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I’m telling you, laughter is the best solution 😆 Thank youu! And a wonderful week ahead to you, too!
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😊😊
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The atmosphere of this photo .. it’s like a painting. The struggle is important somehow, though at now 56, I can’t tell you exactly why, just that I believe it expands us somehow.
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Thank you! It’s a photo of when I was a teen, and my sister took it on her old phone, so it lost it quality in the meantime, but I guess it gave it a more nostalgic, maybe a bit melancholic feel. ❤
Oh, I see your point! It makes sense.
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i felt invincible in my teens but now i feel like i need to make smarter choices and to think about them a lot more
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Exactly! I was the same, and I miss that delusion of my teens when I thought I could do anything.
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